Tuesday, December 4, 2012

A Loving Legacy

My dear Mother-in-law died recently after a long Summer and Fall of failing health, hospitalization,   slow rehabilitation and incremental recovery, a joyous return to her home through the help of her devoted sons, hope, determination, the hard work of physical therapy, additional setbacks that necessitated her return to the hospital, and finally hospice care. Throughout her ordeal she retained her constant faith and love for her family, and received undying love in return from her four grown sons and their families, friends and neighbors. She left a legacy of love- of her devoted family, of her church and of the Christmas season ( all holidays, actually). Her interest and concern extended well beyond her immediate family to neighborhood children and the youngsters in her church family.

Even though I don't remember the names of all the people I've met in the past couple days at the calling hours and church's reception after the lovely, solemn yet celebratory funeral, I'm impressed with the genuine feeling of love and support that everyone offered through their  mere presence, handshakes, hugs, a light touch on the shoulder, a nod or a sincere smile, stories and offerings of sandwiches, cookies, snacks, etc. People have a way of coming together to offer genuine, loving support in times of need, but you have to be willing to allow that support to happen.

I think Marijane's legacy will live on in genuine love and concern for one another. Each year, she loved being in the midst of her family's large and noisy Christmas gift exchange and feast, often fitting about 15 people into her small living room, already filled by a fully decorated tree. We will continue to keep her joyful presence in mind and heart during the midst of our  Christmas celebrations.


Lisa said...

I am so sorry to hear of yet another heartbreaking loss for your family.

I love the message you've shared here, legacy of love is all you can hope for someone to leave behind. its the best gift of all.

Sending healing prayers and wishes for warm memories to see you through this holiday season.

Rosemary said...

It is very difficult to lose a loved member of the family especially at Christmas time.
She sounds and looks to have been a lovely lady, and I know she will live on your memories.

Linda Reeder said...

It will be good to remember this season with the joy she had for it, even if it is tinged with the sadness of her passing.